Healing Your Emotions: Ungodly Soul Ties, Broken-Hearted, Trauma, Abuse, Rejection & Unforgiveness
1.Ungodly Soul Ties
“The soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul” (1 Samuel 18:1 KJV).
“Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, ‘The two will become one flesh.” (1 Corinthians 6:16)
A Soul Tie refers to a deep intimate relationship or bond, sexual or non-sexual, where a person’s emotions, attitudes, thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors can be influenced by the other. In essence, the two become one in thought, mind, and deed. It closely resembles a type of covenant. It can be observed between sexual partners, best friends or married couples. David and Jonathan were “knit with the soul” as Best Friends. On the other hand, this type of bond can be of a sexual nature, as with casual sex partners, meaning the “two will become one flesh.” Determining whether or not having a Soul Tie is a bad thing depends on the context of the bond. When two unmarried people engage in sexual acts they become one flesh. This creates a type of “oneness” that should only be present in a marriage. When two people have this bond but are unmarried, unequally yoked, or have no desire to have Godly relations, they have created a co-dependency in the spirit realm that they must break. The same is true for Best Friends. If you are allowing someone to influence your emotions, attitudes, thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors and you are striving to live a holy life and they don’t have the same intentions, then you must break the bond. This is done by repenting of its ungodly influence, renouncing the relationship, and ending communication with the other person. Initially there may be emotional pain as a result of the separation, however God will carry us through it if we allow Him to.
“The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.” (Psalm 34:18 NKJV)
“He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3 NKJV)
“The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me, Because He has anointed Me To preach the gospel to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the captives And recovery of sight to the blind, To set at liberty those who are oppressed.” (Luke 4:18 NKJV)
“So, as the Holy Spirit says: “Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion, during the time of testing in the wilderness.” (Hebrews 3:7-8)
Past disappointments, betrayals, trauma, and abuse can leave us broken-hearted. However, we must address the soil of our hearts before bitterness becomes rooted and we begin bearing the fruits of hatred, envy, strife, and rebellion. The key to recovery will be the decision to forgive and release bitterness, resentment, and judgment. Without forgiveness we will never be free.
3. Trauma and Abuse
“Look, here is my virgin daughter and the man’s concubine; let me bring them out now. Humble them, and do with them as you please; but to this man do not do such a vile thing!” But the men would not heed him. So the man took his concubine and brought her out to them. And they knew her and abused her all night until morning; and when the day began to break, they let her go. Then the woman came as the day was dawning, and fell down at the door of the man’s house where her master was, till it was light.” ( Judges 19:24-26)
Trauma and Abuse opens our soul to ALL kinds of demonic entities.
Many people, including Christians struggle with the demonic spirit of rejection. They don’t feel as though they belong anywhere, so they live as if they belong nowhere. The progression of rejection tends to follow 2 paths. The first path begins with loneliness and isolation. This later develops into self-pity and misery. At this point the person has subconsciously come into agreement with the demonic spirit. Then the person will find themselves under the stronghold of depression. They eventually succumb to the despair and hopelessness and the spirit of death steps in and the person commits suicide. The second path begins with a type of hardness. The person becomes detached and indifferent. Through this indifference, the person becomes rebellious and is in subconscious agreement with the demonic spirit. Then the stronghold of witchcraft enters their life and they are now in allegiance with the demonic realm.
Jesus related the parable of a servant whose master forgave him a debt of several million dollars, but who then refused to forgive a fellow servant a debt of just a few dollars. The parable concludes with a judgment on that unforgiving servant: “And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him” (Matthew 18:34). In the next verse Jesus applied this parable to all Christians: “So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.” The torturers in this passage are demons. There are hundreds of Christians who are in the hands of the torturers for one simple reason: unforgiveness. They have claimed forgiveness from God for the incalculable debt of all their sins, yet they refuse to forgive another person for some offense, real or imagined. After Jesus taught His followers the model prayer, or the Lord’s Prayer, He added only one comment: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matthew 6:14-15). There are various forms of torture to which we may be subjected. There is, for instance, physical torture.
One example is arthritis: twisting, torturing, crippling, binding. It is not suggested that all arthritis has a demonic cause. Yet it is remarkable how often arthritis is actually associated with an inner attitude of resentment, unforgiveness, and bitterness.
Another example is cancer. Holding on to an inner attitude of resentment, unforgiveness, and bitterness has been speculated to cause decay and toxins to multiple and spread throughout the body.
6. Prenatal & Parental Influences– Rejection, Fear, & Dishonor
“Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.” (Psalms 51:5 KJV)
The very first environment that we ever experience is the womb. If a mother had an unwanted pregnancy, a pregnancy under difficult circumstances, or became pregnant out of wedlock-it is very likely the demonic spirits of rejection and fear have transferred onto the child. Perhaps she became resentful towards her unborn child, worried about future financial obligations, or felt a sense of shame or regret for getting pregnant. This can cause a child to be born feeling unwanted, resentful, or even a false sense of shame and regret.
People tend to view God how they view their earthly father. Those who identify as Atheist, Agnostic, or Humanistic usually come from divorced, broken, or abusive homes where the father was either absent or not portraying his biblical role and responsibilities. On the other hand, if the father was present in the home, people tend to liken their experience with their natural father with our Almighty Heavenly Father. Therefore, they put God in a box and limit Him to the characteristics ,traits, qualities, and personality of their earthly father.
Both views are incorrect. God is perfect and everything created by Him is good, and nothing is to be rejected, if it is received with gratitude; for it is sanctified by means of the Word of God and prayer (1 Timothy 4:4-5).
Dishonouring parents is a very important issue. There are many who have problems in their life because their attitude towards their parents is not right. Remember the commandment: ‘Honour thy father and mother that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.’ (Exodus 20:12)
How to be FREE
In modern churches, the spirit of rejection can take many forms. It can be an individual who is struggling with rejection from a parent, from a spouse, from peers, or from leaders. It can be from families, or even from entire nations.
The only remedy for rejection is forgiving the offender(s) and receiving the love of Christ into one’s heart. The person must see themselves how God sees them-with hope and an expected end, the apple of His eye, and beautifully & wonderfully made.